How Kids Learn

Jun 22, 2022

As the dad of an 11 year old I watch lots of youth sports. As a coach, I can't help but watch through my coaching lens. The good thing is that I use what I learn to hopefully make me a better coach and, to help all our readers and subscribers.

Recently I was watching my son bat in baseball  and observed his mannerisms. He steps into the batters box and immediately raises his hand to signal the umpire for time out as he wants time to get set. He then sets himself up to bat very precisely.

What makes me pause is realizing that neither I ( or any other coach) has instructed him to do this. David Ortiz has. David is his TV teacher. We watches a lot of baseball and my son sees what the best hitters do.  In fact, he has never had a formal “batting lesson”.

This makes me realize that kids primarily learn in two ways and, one of them is definitely not listening. I love the line from the Cat Steven's song  Father and Son . Steven's sings “from the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen”.  How frighteningly true for kids. We can't wait for the first words and then spend the next 16 years telling them to be quiet.

Kids learn by seeing and doing. The listening part will come much later and must be in smaller doses. Too much talking becomes like the Charlie Brown cartoons. All they hear is blah-blah-blah.

This ties into the importance of having a passion for the sport. You want your kid to not only want to play their sports but, to also watch them. A kid would be much better off watching David Ortiz and imitating what he sees than listening to dad ramble on about the proper way to hit.

Whether we like it or not, our kids are highly visual and that is only going to increase.  We have always learned through a simple “watch and do” process. In fact, my first lifting lessons came from watching older guys at the Y.

As a kid I'm not sure I had a lesson or instruction in anything until I was at least twelve. By that time I was already swimming, slalom water skiing, and doing lots of other stuff.

I'm a big fan of the old army quote “lead, follow, or get out of the way”. In a lot of our youth instruction, I'd advise you to demo what you want and let the kids try it.  Learning is visual and experiential . Let them see and do. Resist the urges to over-teach, over-correct and over-talk. Good demos and lots of reps are the roads to success with kids.